Here are some ways to establish a godly family:
Plan family nights around Bible or board games; make a family dinner with everyone taking a creative part; paint or do craftwork (painting the house or cleaning the garage don't count!).
Do any type of physical activity that doesn't cost money, such as cycling, going to the park, playing volleyball, badminton, tennis, basketball, softball or flag football.
With this type of activity, there is no strain on the budget, so all can relax and enjoy the time spent with getting to know the entire family.
It is good to alternate the activities and who picks them, so all are involved with the selection and no one feels left out of the group. Plan activities in which you can ask questions and talk openly with one another. The main purpose of a family activity is so everyone really gets to know one another.
Find out what your spouse and kids like and dislike in food, music, clothes, games, friends, etc. You would be surprised to know that most parents don't know these things about their children, and if one does, it's usually the mother.
Set a time limit on activities.
This way you look forward to the time spent together and it isn't a hassle to get everyone to participate each week. However, you don't want to make it so short that everyone feels "why bother." A few hours is good and fair to all.
Don't skip family time unless it is an emergency.
If you learn to put family time into your daily and weekly schedule, you won't over schedule or put something else in its place. If an event comes up and it is on the day or time that you should be spending it with your family, don't go to the event unless all can go or all agree on going.
This will demonstrate that family time is something that is important and not to be taken lightly. In turn, you will have a long-lasting, trusting relationship with your family that will be passed on to future generations. Once you start to re-schedule family time, it's difficult to get it back.
Show your children that you are decisive in your behavior and thinking.
Make every decision out of love, not emotion. No my friends, real love is not an emotion, but a decision and choice. God loves us no matter what we do. He decided to set that behavior in motion. You need to do the same.
Learn to walk in love and do what the Word says. Then your decisions will be based on what is good for the entire family and you won't do the guilt trip and condemnation route!
Be sure to laugh with your family (not at them) daily. A merry heart does good like medicine (Prov. 17:22).
Show affection and tenderness to one another.
Tell one another you love them every day. Let your children see tenderness and caressing toward your spouse, so they know how to treat their future spouse.
Listen to one another without interrupting.
The Word of God says that those who respond before they hear the question are counted "as" fools, and lack wisdom. Those who listen gain wisdom, knowledge and understanding.
If your children see you argue and fight, make sure they see you make up and forgive one another.
This is vital to building relationships. Remember, it is not a sin to get angry, but it is a sin to act on it. The spirit of offense keeps many relationships from being repaired. Children need to see that parents can agree to disagree without going to battle. Learn to be quick to forgive and repent.
Maintain a pleasant attitude and good mood regardless of what is happening.
This is a hard one, but we must do it. We are to remain steady in the Lord, knowing that He is always in control. We are to rejoice and be glad in the day that He has given us, for each day is a gift from God (Ps. 118:24).
Watch words spoken out of anger in front of the children.
A soft answer turns away anger and wrath. Sweet words are like honey to the soul. Whenever possible, we are to remain at peace.
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