The man who finds a wife finds a "good thing" and obtains the favor of the Lord. It does not say that the man who finds a wife finds a "desperate thing."
A good thing is someone who is willing to fall in love with his mother. When you marry your husband, his mom becomes your mom. You call and check on her. You're his helpmate, so you're supposed to help him do what he needs to do to feel like a man. His job is to leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife. But he is still to give honor to his parents. And you should help him do that.
We know how God set this thing up. It is not a "she" finding a husband. It is a "he" finding a wife. Why would you want a man who doesn't have the guts to come hunting for you? If you marry someone who is not motivated enough to call you up, take you on a date, what makes you think he is going to do anything once he gets married?
Women, you want a godly man. In order to have a godly man, you have to wait until God presents you to him. In the meantime, you do everything you can to be a "good thing."
Do you remember the passage in Proverbs that talked about the character of the woman? She had to have a good godly character in order to not cause her husband to be ashamed. She has to be holy both in body and in spirit. She is teachable. This woman we're talking about cares for the things of God. 1 Peter, chapter 3 also says, "She has a quiet and meek spirit." You get that from spending time with God and being close to Him. You can't learn that out of a book.
Study Reference: Mark 10:7; Ephesians 6:1-3; 1 Peter 3:4
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