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"For if we would judge ourselves, we should not be judged" (1 Cor. 11:31).

Honor demands that we judge ourselves. Many in the Body of Christ are not doing this. Many Christians are waiting for someone else to do the judging. They live with the attitude, "When I get caught, I'll repent!"

There comes a time when each of us needs to judge himself. This Scripture says if we will judge ourselves, judgment will not come on us.

Gloria and I are married in the three basic worlds of existence: spirit, soul and body. We are working at and learning about our threefold marriage. She and I are a solid front, especially before our children. Our children have always known that if they come against one of us, they will have to deal with both of us.

We have always stood firm before our children. If I told them, "I'm going to spank you if you do that one more time," and they did it one more time, then the spanking began. Gloria has always supported my decisions and I have supported hers.

We have never lied to our children. It is dishonorable to lie to a child - to tell him you are going to do something and then not do it. It is also dishonorable to spank a child for every little thing he does wrong. Punishment should be suited to the offense.

When I was growing up, a spanking was a major event in our house, a serious incident. We would carry on and on about it. It was a big deal. My father had to travel in his work and when he came home and took charge of the situation it was a serious occasion.

But it was not done dishonorably. We would talk about what I had done and why I was being punished. We would sit down and discuss the wrongdoing and the consequences, then I got what was coming.

Our son John came in one day and asked his mother, "Mama, do they send five-year-old boys to jail?" When your child asks a question like that, you know immediately something is wrong. It turned out that he had set the grass on fire. An entire vacant lot was burned. Fire trucks and flashing lights were everywhere. It scared the daylights out of him! He was worried about what was going to happen when I got home.

"Do we have to tell Daddy?" he wanted to know.

"Yes," his mother assured him, "we have to tell your daddy."

I think he would rather have gone to jail. When I got home Gloria said, "John has something to tell you." He came in and told me what he had done. I guess he figured I was going to unload on him right there, just bend him out of shape. Instead we sat down and had a family discussion.

I said, "John, I was present one time when they dragged two little charred bodies out of an old garage and put them in body bags. That's all those little boys' daddy had left. I want you to know right now that I'm not going to go through life without you. I'm not willing. And you won't ever forget this."

We talked and talked and talked. Then I did several things to reinforce the point I was trying to make - that's been over 20 years ago and he hasn't forgotten it yet!

The Bible does not say spare the rod and spoil the child. This is the secular translation of Proverbs 13:24 which actually says, "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes."

The rod is not just a stick. It is any type of honorable correction. The Bible also says, Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest [spank, not abuse] him with the rod, he shall not die (Prov. 23:13). It is an honorable thing to teach our children and to discipline them in accordance with the Word of God.

Excerpt permission granted by
Eagle Mountain International Church, Inc.
aka:  Kenneth Copeland Ministries

Author Biography

Kenneth Copeland
Web site: Kenneth Copeland Ministries
For the last 50 years Kenneth and Gloria Copeland have been passionately teaching Christians all over the world how to apply the principles of faith found in God’s WORD to their lives.

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