You've probably heard the saying, "Money Cometh." Well, I invented a phrase called, "Honey Cometh!" kind of as a joke, but it really would be a good idea for you to believe your mate in. I especially like the phrase "Honey With Money," but anyway....

I really want to encourage you to get in faith concerning your future spouse. Start believing now that God will send you the right one. After you pray continue to make a faith confession, such as, "I believe I will marry the right person. God is having our paths cross at just the right time. I can hear from God; I will not miss it and marry the wrong one."

Get in faith concerning your future spouse. Start believing now that God will send you the right one.

Romans 4:17 tells us to call "those things which be not as though they were." So just start saying that your honey is on the way! "Honey cometh!"

What About Dating?
Right from the beginning, when I say the word "date" or "dating" I want you to understand what I mean. The word dating means a lot of different things to a lot of different people.

When I refer to dating, I'm talking about something casual, getting to know each other, maybe going out to eat or something like that in a public place, even going out in a group. I'm not referring to a close or serious relationship.

I know a lot of Christian singles who are believing God for a mate, but they won't go on a date. They'll pray, "Lord, send me the right one," but if they're a guy, they won't ask a girl out, and if they're a girl and someone asks them out, they won't go! They're waiting for a big booming voice from heaven to say, "This is the one!" It usually doesn't happen that way.

I have heard about people who don't believe in ever going out on a date. They just supposedly hear God's voice and He says, "Marry that person." They never spend any time with each other until the wedding day, not even getting to know each other.

Now, that's scary! To tell you the truth, I don't trust my ability to hear from God that much. What if I hear wrong? What if I think God told me to marry this person, and then I find out that they're really not who they say they are?

A great way to hear from God is to follow after peace.
And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from the Christ rule (act as umpire continually) in your hearts-[deciding and settling with finality all questions that arise in your minds, -in that peaceful state] to which as [members of Christ's] one body you were also called [to live]. And be thankful- (appreciative), [giving praise to God always].    
(Col. 3:15 AMP)
I liken it to a stoplight. Green means go. This is a peace on the inside. Red means stop. This could be a check or a knowing in your spirit that something's not right. Then there's the yellow light, which simply means to proceed with caution. (Although some people think it means to floor it and go faster!)

You really need to spend a little bit of time with someone to see if you like them or not. Sometimes just getting together can save you from spending hours of time in prayer! In many cases you can tell right away if you're interested or not.

Have you ever felt as if you've known who isn't the one for you? Does it seem as though you keep getting a "No, they're not the one" over and over again? The Bible gives an example of that in 1 Samuel 16.

It tells how Samuel the priest went to the house of Jesse to find the next king of Israel. Once he arrived at the house, Samuel went down the line of all the brothers, ready to anoint the next king, but each time the Lord told him, "No, that's not the one."

I have felt that way sometimes when I've met people: "No, he's not the one!" But if you can know who is not the one, then you can know who is the one. Finally, Samuel had Jesse bring David in from watching over the flocks in the field, and as soon as Samuel saw him, God told Samuel, "That's the one!" And I believe God will help you and I to know the right one, too.

Guys, don't be afraid to ask a girl out just because you're afraid of being rejected. You know what? If you ask someone out and they say no, just ask someone else. Here's a little tip: be confident.

Don't walk up to a girl hanging your head and mumbling, "You wouldn't want to go on a date with me, would you?" You're setting yourself up for failure asking her like that. Don't allow past hurts or the fear of being rejected stop you from taking a risk.

Source: From Single and Loving It! by Kate McVeigh
Excerpt permission granted by Harrison House Publishers