Dating is not really a biblical word at all. That doesn’t mean it’s wrong to go out with someone on a “date.” But it is important to remember what the Bible has to say about developing romantic friendships.
If you begin dating without some clear guidelines and boundaries, you are headed for disaster. Take a quick glance at what dating is not:
- Dating is not for those who aren’t ready. In my opinion, dating shouldn’t even be a consideration until a young person is at least 16 years old.
That’s been “the Law” with my three teenage boys, and they’re doing just fine with it. That doesn’t mean you can’t have good friendships with the opposite sex; just keep things in a group environment.
- Dating is not a great way to “really get to know someone.” Why? Because everyone is on best behavior during a date.
If you really want to get to know someone, watch the person at school every day, or both of you get a job together at McDonald’s. Eight straight hours over a hot greaser full of fries will tell you the real tale.
- Dating is not all it’s cracked up to be. Think about two people out together who hardly know each other. They’re young and have limited social skills. They have to try to create awkward conversation for hours on end.
The point is, it’s usually a whole lot easier to get to know someone among a group of other friends who can help fill those awkward moments, keeping things fun.
by Blaine Bartel.
Excerpt permission granted by Harrison House Publishers
Blaine is a modern-day Lazarus.
Jesus resurrected him out of 23 years of sexual addiction and the death of everything he held dear. Today he coaches men out of sexual brokenness and into the Jesus life.
Blaine and his wife Lori reside in Tulsa, Oklahoma. They love going on long walks from the kitchen to the living room and have a weakness for reality shows. Along with his speaking and coaching, Blaine is a writer and has recently shared his resurrection story in his latest book, "Death by a Thousand Lies."
For the inquiring mind, a complete history is below.