No storm is unique to you.
One of the greatest lies is no one has gone through this particular storm before. Your mind will paint a picture of a storm too big to face; however, this is not the case. Not to trivialize the storms you face, but no storm is new to man. People have overcome that particular storm and even greater storms.
A great way to start is by increasing your knowledge base on the matter. Ignorance causes many marriage heartaches because what many couples don’t know can kill their marriages. Expose yourself to sound biblical concepts and information on areas where you are experiencing storms in marriage.
Ecclesiastes 1: 9 puts it this way:
That which has been is what will be,
That which is done is what will be done,
And there is nothing new under the sun.
Silence
Silence is another aspect that has the potential to ignite a storm as couples experience misery in marriage and are silent about it. Silence, if unaddressed, can lead to an explosion. Couples need to ensure they not only express positive emotions to their spouse but also negative emotions, particularly when their needs or desires are not being met. Don’t suffer in silence; communicating your negative emotions is the first step in your healing process.
Divorce
To those thinking about divorce, get counsel. Your feeling of wanting a divorce signifies pain in your marriage. Just like you visit a doctor when you feel pain in your body or a dentist for a toothache, you need to seek counsel about your feelings on divorce. There is no shame in your feeling you want a divorce; however, it will be a shame if you allow that feeling to rob your marriage, rob your children of a stable home, rob society by stopping you from reaching your potential, and rob you of God’s plan for marriage.
God loves you and His desire is that you prosper in all areas of life including marriage. The difference between success and failure in marriage is how you choose to react to this storm (your desire for divorce).
The feeling of irreconcilable difference is the major cause of divorce presently. You can either choose to marry that feeling and divorce your spouse or divorce that feeling and marry your spouse.
Marriage requires you doing your due diligence and letting the Holy Spirit play His own part (supplying the grace you need). God loves you and wants to heal your marriage.
Uthman Oluwatoyosi Erogbogbo (fondly called Toyosi) is a trained finance professional with a growing passion to see more Godly marriages in our world today. Toyosi holds the strong conviction that society flourishes to the extent to which the family and marriages prosper. He is passionate about helping singles who desire marriage; make the transition into a relationship that culminates in a fruitful marriage union.
Toyosi believes no marriage is hopeless, and more marriages can be saved if both spouses put in the effort, seek appropriate counsel, and diligently apply the fundamental principles of marriage as taught by God’s Word.
Toyosi is dedicated to the work of God was recently part of a church plant, RCCG Victory House, in Oak Park where he serves in various capacity. He is a committed husband to Damilola and they are blessed with a son. Visit his personal blog at www.yourmarriagejourney.com.
